True beauty

Thursday, October 13, 2011

8:21

I don't mean to blow my own horn or anything that arrogant but I have to admit I'm amazing when it comes to inspiration especially when I'm just dozing off and my mind is running at the speed of light( how I manage to fall asleep at that speed is, well, truly something out of this world). Last night while I was having one of these moments a quote just popped into my head. This struck me so much that I had to wake myself up just to write it down.

True beauty is not MAN-made. It is SELF-made.

Melissa Boguo (12 October 2011)

One has to understand that no matter how much you try to look beautiful or handsome on the outside, if you haven't worked on the inner you then guess what?! You are just like Barbie. Beautiful and plastic. Ain't nothing more to you than your looks and well a well established brand to you.

To look beautiful on the outside, you must be beautiful on the inside too. One needs to humble themselves in all situations and ask, "What can I learn from this?". Understand this, you are only as good as your last experience. Ewhat I mean by that is if something happened to you yesterday that made you cry blood(ok that's exaggeration but you get me.. I hope), you will not, no matter who you think you are, wake up today with a huge smile on your face and happiness tipped to overflowing. Know why? Because you're HUMAN!

It takes everyone, no matter how old, experienced or influential you are, time to accept who they are. We spend entire lifetimes in search of meaning in our lives that we tend to overlook the small and simple beauties that exist around us everyday. We bury ourselves in our problems annd fail to realise that there are others going through something much worse than we are and they still manage to find it in themselves to wake up every morning with a smile on their face and gratitude in their hearts. Don't be consumed by what you're going through now because from this greater things will come from it. Your life is not meant to be stuck in the situation you are now in.

Wait.. That train needs to come back to the staion. In order to dvelop your inner beauty, you need to develop what I call the 4 basic laws of life that will allow others to see in you what you rarely choose to see in yourself because honestly speaking we all find it hard to accept compliments than we do to dish them out to others.

1. Love who you are!

Let's face it, we all have flaws and faults we wish we didn't, both outwardly to the world and in ourselves, whether it be the biggest mole on our face or unstable insecurities. YOU CANNOT LOVE WHAT YOU DO NOT ACCEPT! I know it will take you a while to love yourself wholely, completely and unconditionally but until you are willing to start trying now, you may never reach that stage. Yes, I know there may be neagtives to you but who the f!&% really notices except you?! Unless ofcourse that's what you portray. That happens because you don't want to make yourself vulnerable to the world I look for the good within yourself because guess what, you AIN'T all bad!

2. Have an attitude of gratitude

Be grateful for everything in your life. Whether good or bad because it has made you who you are. Be thankful each and every day. Life is full of amazing little wonders. Open your eyes, heart, mind and soul to them and you'll be amazed at what happens. In the good time and in the bad, learn to BE GRATEFUL for the small things because when the big things come, you won't have to think about it.

3. Humble yourself!

Flip if someone says you are the most beautiful creature on the planet, say THANK YOU! Not, "Nah nigga, you blind?". Lol.. Ai some people. The good that others see in you should be a good starting point to acknowledging it and loving it about yourself. You may feel a bit flustered but hey, it's a compliment. Take criticism in the same fashion. You may not think you portray a bad aura sometimes, but YOU DO! Humble yourself, accept it and try to change it if you can. In fact change it!

4. Look for the beauty in each day

I know some days it's hard to look for beauty in anything, trust me I know, but you have to be willing to try. Whether it be a laughing a t all these Blackberry users or just admiring the beauty in a leaf that is blowing in the wind then do that. Nothing put more of a smile on my face than when I make someone smile. It doesn't matter what happens during that day, as long as I can go to sleep knowing I did some good in the world that day. Open yourself up. That's all you need to do.

These are just some of the laws I live by. I'm not even conscious that I do because they're built into my spirit and soul. They come naturally. My ex always used to ask me how the hell I could love a screw up just like him. My answer was always this, I could see something in him and I still do. Something good. He didn't believe me when I told him that because he doesn't believe that there is but I wasn't looking at him through my own eyes but through God's. Look for the God in people everyday(yes, even your enemy)… You'll be amazed at what you see in them and ultimately yourself...