Before you lose her...

11 March 2012

01:16 PM

This was one of my friends statuses(Kelly van Weren) on Facebook and it just hit a nerve with me when I read it because there was just so much truth in what she wrote. So being me, I want to share it with as many people as I can. Hope you enjoy reading it as much as I did…

Any girl can be in love and be someone's "girl" but not every girl can be someone's "girlfriend". Love lasts forever. Being in love is only temporary because when he can't buy a birthday gift or a valentines gift and take you to nice dinners and pick you up from work or campus. When he doesn't have money to buy airtime to call you, or to buy his BIS to bbm or update his Facebook status about you, and when he hasn't worn new clothes in a while and looks a bit shabby, and romantic dates become crying sessions and he needs a shoulder more than you, and he feels like he's not good enough due to the circumstances.

Guys: It's not the "girl" that's going to be beside you, because she'll be gone the minute you send her a PCM. It's the girlfriend that will call back in an anxious tone worried if something bad has happened to you. It's the girlfriend that will settle for a McDonald’s happy meal when you can't take her to Piatto. It's the girlfriend that will appreciate a Cadbury chocolate when you can't get her favourite Lindt truffles, and it's the girlfriend that will buy you a new t-shirt when she only has money for her shoes just to see you smile. It's the girlfriend that won't mind taking a taxi so that she can wipe your tear, and who'll share her R30 airtime so you both can have. It's this very girlfriend who becomes the woman standing opposite you at the altar in her white dress and who never misses a school concert and makes excuses for you when the kid asks, "where's daddy?". It's this girlfriend that makes a meal from oil and flour and hands it to you with a smile. It's this girlfriend that sees you beyond your temporary situation and your current three figure bank balance.

To the girls: which one are you? The woman standing at the altar in her white dress or the lady sitting in the crowd planning on catching the bouquet?

To the guys: Have you found a girl or a girlfriend? Because the girl is only there when it's good, but the girlfriend is there when it's good=girl and when it's bad= friend. Because a relationship based on a friendship is the one you wanna spend your time working on...

I'm the girlfriend in the white dress waiting at the altar for the groom to realise I exist...