Firsts

19 November 2012

05:20 PM

Hi, my name is Mel and I'm crazy. *crowd replies*,"Hiiii Mel"


Lol… sorry just wanted to be random. You won't believe how much I've missed blogging! No one can say I didn't try though. It's just unbelievable when internet isn't free. so let's talk. How've you guys been?! Me?! Oh, I've been awesome. I can't tell you how much becoming a mother has changed me. I would do anything for this beautiful angel in my life. Boy has she grown! Did I mention that she's walking on her own now? Yes I said it! Aiko is fully mobile! At 9 and a half months even!


I've gotta tell you how it happened though! So Aiko started standing up at about 5 months old. Walking with support by 7 months. Crawling between 6 months and the present time and just last Friday( November 16th, 2012), she took her first unsupported steps to freedom and independence! I was both shocked and SHOCKED! Hehehehehe.. So every night before we go to sleep, Aiko and I usually spend the evening watching TV with my brothers in their room and Friday night was no different. Well, except the fact that Aiko was still up at 22h00. Anyhu, I decided that it was time for us to go to bed since TV was boring at this time and we had to be up early the next day. Seeing as my room is right next to my brothers' room, it isn't much of a distance there. As I was still talking to Guy, Aiko noticed Jean( my youngest brother) at the computer fast asleep. It wasn't him that enticed her though, it was the light from the computer. At the time, she was standing and holding onto my leg. Without warning she let go and started walking towards Jean, I turned around to look at her and thought I was dreaming because right there before my eyes was a walking 9 month old! I was like huh?! She took a few steps before falling flat ion her bum and giving herself a round of applause. It took my brain a very long time to even compute what on earth was going on! Hehehehehe.. Once I did compute, I went buck! I was so excited I ran up and down the house telling everyone what had just happened. My dad was beaming. My brothers looked like death and Aiko was just smiling at me. Lol… I didn't care though. I saw my daughter's first steps!


Ever since then all she wants to do now is walk, crawl and make as much noise as possible but I don't care. She's put me on a high that no one can take me down from for a while! I love it!

COMEBACK SEASON

07 September 2012

04:05 PM

I'M BAAAAACCK! That's right. Melissa is back and better than ever. I know, I know you guys missed me but I needed to take a hiatus and sort my life out big time. So here is the update for those who want to know and if you don't?! Well just suck it up and read dammit!

Last time any of you heard from me was in march. I was still in a bad space, not too bad but bad nonetheless but THANK GOODNESS for my daughter because she was the light at the end of my dark tunnel that I finally reached! Yay me! I am truly happier, healthier and more whole. I can't go back to who I used to be because the old me wasn't a mother. I'm loving life and life is loving me.

Last time you heard anything Aiko was only 2 months old. She's 7 months old now and she is the happiest, healthiest, loving, energetic, funny little girl. She brings so much joy to everyone here at home, that you can't help but smile. Did I mention how loud she's become?! I didn't?! Ah this child is loud. She's got so much to say and she tries to cram everything into 1 minute. My poor ears are still ringing from her screaming 3 weeks ago hehehehehe.. She also wants to start walking before she can even crawl properly. My child is so ahead of the curve that she's practically gone around the bend Lol… (Yes, I said it!). And her smile! Oh my word! Kills me every time. Lol… and sometimes she flashes it when she knows she's guilty of something. I can walk into a room, she'll look up and smile at me as if she's guilty of a crime. That cracks me up every time she does it because I check what it is she was doing.

On the other side of the spectrum, don't talk to A* much anymore. It seems we've hit that portion where he lives his life with his family and I live mine with Aiko. They don't see much of each other which I already predicted would happen a long time ago(if anyone remembers my previous posts). Don't doubt my powers of foresight. It doesn't really bother me much anymore because at least she has some males around her. They may not be her father but they're doing a great job. I doubt she even knows the difference right now except that mommy is around. Oh did I mention she's started to mouth out "mama"?! Like I'm not joking even my mother has heard her say it! It's pretty cool.

Got myself a job too. Saving up to go back to school next year. Going to study linguistics. My aunt believes that's where I should be and I don't doubt the woman because she earns a living in career counselling. Going to use my salary to pay for school seeing as the fees at UNISA are not going to drive me into crazy debt. I'm so excited that I'll be studying and it will be easier seeing as Aiko will be a proper little toddler next year. I'll be enrolling her into a crèche so at least she can start making friends and start playing with other children her age. Didn't think I'd be so excited to see my child going to school but it is another phase I must prepare myself for. AHHHHHHHH I LOVE MY KID!

Soon I'll be marking a year since the whole break up happened and the truth came out and when I think about how I was a year ago(a true emotional wreck) and how I am now, I'm grateful for what happened because it has made me a stronger person than I thought I could ever be. There were times when I thought I really couldn't make it but through prayer and the support of my family and friends, I am here today. And not just them I should thank everyone else also in my life who gave me words of encouragement or just took the time to read my blog. Thank you. It's been an absolute rollercoaster but it's one I guess I had to be on. It's a few days until my birthday and I'm excited. Not only at the prospect of turning older but at the prospect that there's more for me in life. Bigger, better and greater things are coming my way so it's only up from here!

Hope you're all good. Will update soon

Over and out

22 weeks

02 July 2012

02:37 PM

Motherhood. That's all I have to say about the matter. I love every second, minute and hour I spend with my little nunukins, except when she's being difficult because then I have to exercise heavenly patience with her but I'm not complaining. The past 22 weeks have taught me so much and it's as if I'm relearning what the world is like all over again and seeing it with fresh eyes.

She's growing so fast and I'm amazed at fast time has flown by. My hart seems to have healed from all the pain too. Well phase one is complete, started phase two: moving on. There's no question that I'll always have strong feelings for the guy but I've made peace with the fact that it was all in God's plan. He knew what He was doing even when I didn't and He truly only has my best interests at heart. So I'm putting my best single mother foot forward and living my life the best way I know how, in the moment. So seeing as it's been a century since I've posted up anything I thought it was time to share some of what has been going on in the life and times of ME! Hehehe..

So I'm still single, no prospects as yet (woah people, this is not cause for alarm! You can put the pitchforks and torches down, there will be no mob justice tonight). I think I like being single. Actually, being single is the only comfort zone I've really ever known in my very short life( yes, no joke. I've been more single than I've been involved. My track record speaks for itself). I like it here. There's no stress, no romancing, no false promises, no earth-shattering kisses… well basically there's nothing here except selfless fun, or something like that.

Aiko has started teething in earnest now. It seems to be irritating her a lot and I can only imagine what she is going through. She's chewing on whatever she can reach to put into her mouth. It's cute and all until she starts crying her lungs out. Oh well, but we must go through this if we wanna see some pearly whites in that mouth of hers. We're getting there.

She did the most exciting thing yesterday! She rolled over on her own. I started screaming in such excitement that she looked at me, laughed and gave me the look saying "this woman is crazy". Lol… didn't much care, I was just sooooo proud of her. It's amazing how the little things she does get me so excited. I love it!